You Taught Me – JT

I’ve always admired… your thoughts, your honesty and the banter that we gave each other.

When we last spoke…we talked about how awesome it was for us to see and hang out with each other overseas. How some of the best moments were made when we both felt free from everything, to just lay down and talk into that night sky. I think that was pretty awesome too! We’re a lot like each other, I think we kind of saw that over the years, but the thing that makes us most different is our sense of the world around us, you’re a true realist and myself a true optimist at heart. In so many ways I know sometimes that I should be more like you, think more about the reality of what my future might look like instead of having my head always in the cloud. It’s harder though, for me to do than you think. But in any sense, I think we’re both holding it together and doing well for ourselves either way. Maybe it shows that there really are many paths to one end goal.

What struck me most…was our conversation on love and life. You alllwaayysss like to poke at the things I say, break them apart to make me see a flaw in my own argument. That’s not always fair though. I say things even I don’t fully understand, but that’s not a lack of me trying, I’d like to think it’s a lack of depth in the English Language. I know you’d laugh at that when you read it. *giggles*. I can, however say that I thoroughly enjoyed our conversation on the topic and I came out of it with more questions; for myself. Upon some of the favourite things I will remember is that, and as lame as it sounds, love really does come when you least expect it; and that time, perserverance and choice are factors that come into play when it comes to that love and life.

In 5 years time…you’re not exactly sure where you will be in life, but you do have a 3 year outlook. You seek some more stability in your life, a good job that challenges you but doesn’t cause you stress, a good boy who supports you through life, a place you can call home. We’re both feeling older each and everyday (but still I push that we are so youthful at heart). I think a lot of us at our age feel the same way, we don’t want to use the term “settle down”. Our generation is stuck inbetween two strong rifts of change, the more traditional past which emphasises a stable long lived life and the modern generation of youthfuls who have grown up in a world of change so fast that to stay in any one place causes so much unease. I just want to say that I understand you Koala, it’s something I think about a lot too.

I’m sad…that things have moved so fast! we’ve only hanged out a handful of times over the past few years, but even then we can talk and catch up so easily. Fear not though, we both may very well see each other in Europe next year! 🙂

I’m happy…that you have good friends (and a singular very good friend 😉 ) and family that surround you and your life. I’m happy that you are taking on challenges that are way beyond what even you think you can achieve, but I must remind you to not give up, that it looks like you are learning, growing and becoming a more incredible person each and every day. Trust and believe in yourself and you will go far, plus, we all have your back!

I wish…you all the very best in the future. Good luck on that job search, that change in pace from the over-responsibility you’ve received in recent times. Good luck with you and your boy, he sounds like a great catch! Honesty and preserverence remember? 🙂

You Taught Me – KK

A kind, loving and forgiving heart is the gift that you have.

You taught me how to take care of myself, how we shouldn’t be so harsh to ourselves when things don’t work out the way we want it to. You taught me that there will always be people around you who are experiencing or have experienced similar emotions that you are feeling at this moment and together, you can get through anything life throws at you. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help. Many years ago, we reached out to each other and helped each other get through some of the toughest times of our lives and there’s nothing more I can say but thank you. We will always be great friends because of that. We only have to look at how far we’ve come since then to realise what felt like a dead end in our path was only a small hump in the road of life!

Be Insecure

Maybe we can define our best of friends as those in which you are able to be most vulnerable with.

Because how often do we fail to express how we really feel? How often do we choose to hold back what’s at the tips of our hearts? How often do we hide behind the walls of vulnerability? To be scared that you will be judged, scared of your own potential, scared of the outcomes.

 I truly think that in today’s world, to show vulnerability is not to show weakness but instead to show how strong you really are.

There are those of you who find it easy to open up to people, to tell your story. Then there are those who prefer to keep their stories close by their side. I don’t think this is always a measure of somebody’s vulnerability though rather more a measure of their personality and traits. Not everyone can open up to strangers, for example. At the end of the day we need to feel secure to open up to someone. So imagine how others perceive you, do they see you as someone who they can open up to?