Becoming a Better Conversationalist

GOALS – The most amazing thing about conversations with people are those in which you are walking away feeling engaged and inspired, when you feel like you have made a real connection and or are feeling perfectly understood.

  1. Don’t multitask – Be present, be in THAT moment. Don’t be half in and half out of it.
  2. Don’t pontificate – Enter every conversation assuming that there is something to learn. Set aside all of your personal opinions and beliefs. Everyone is an expert at something
  3. Use open ended questions – Who, what, when, where, what are the words to use!
  4. Go with the flow – questions and ideas will come into mind in the middle of a conversation but be careful not to hold onto them in your mind as this will stop your listening, let those questions and ideas come and go.
  5. If you don’t know, then say that you don’t know.
  6. Don’t equate your experience with theirs – It is NEVER the same. All experiences are individual and more importantly it is not about you. Conversations are not a promotional opportunity.
  7. Try not to repeat yourself – It is really condescending.
  8. Stay out of the weeds – People don’t care about the little details (years, dates, names etc). They care about you, what you are like and what you have in common.
  9. LISTEN – we’d all rather talk than listen, but when we talk, we don’t learn. Steven Covey said that most people don’t listen to understand, we listen with the intent to reply.
  10. Be prepared to be amazed.

Thanks for reading, keep learning! Jason ❤

Feature image – One of the last great team outings with my old team back in Sydney before I left for London, as always, we had a great time out! Taken on the 8th of October 2018.

Author: Jason Li

Jason Li (born 17th October 1992) grew up in the big bad city of Sydney. After all these years, he’s still growing up; or at least trying to. Sometimes he writes. Sometimes he gets lucky and writes something good. Most of the time, however, he has no idea where life is taking him, living life just one single day at a time.

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