Mondays

“Mondays are absolutely key to any individuals success. An energetic start to the day fueled by the reaping joys of the weekend and a really really good nights rest sets the tone not only for the rest of the day, but for the week that comes.

A Monday spent worthwhile gets you ahead of the game. Before most have even figured out what their week looks like, you’re already looking ahead to the next.”

JayysNotes

Personal Context – I sit here at the end of one of my favourite days, Mondays. Looking back throughout the day, I feel a sense of achievement. I’ve completed the equivalent of a weeks work in one sitting. A long sitting no doubt but I’ve done it and now that I have, the week feels open to me. Open to spending time on what really matters, on ideas that never should be overlooked at a glance, when you’re too busy to really pause and see. Having a good Monday to me means to have an even better week. It is because of this I have my Sunday ME days, to wind down, get an exceptional quality of sleep and relax before the storm in which is myself!

I Miss

There’s a lot of things that I miss right now…

I miss being close to my family, just being there and living each moment with them.

I miss my mum’s smile and my dad in his chair.

I miss the special moments with friends, their birthdays, the holidays spent somewhere new, the events and get-togethers.

I miss the little moments together, the spontaneous catch-ups, the BBQs just cause, the sunny beach days and the hi, how are you’s.

I miss the random encounters, without a mask or covering to show that we were well met.

I miss the workplace banter and eventful weekday evenings at the local pub.

I guess I’m mostly saying that I just miss people, people without the fear of the contagious. But I also miss being the best side of me.

I miss the flights that could of been to places that would of been.

I miss my hobbies always done better together, the dancing classes, the cycling crew, the board game nights and more.

I miss the outdoors, the long walks without being worried or others being worried of you.

I miss the local restaurants, take aways and markets where good food was served with a smile.

I miss fun things, the museum’s, the theme parks, the daily assortment of events like comedy nights and the swingers club (putt putt golf!).

These are the things I miss and took for granted before the choices I’d made, before the world shut down. We all have our own list, one that’s unique to each and every one of us. The important thing to remember is to be grateful that we ever had those gifts in the first place and that it is a blessing when they return.

Feature Image – At the Parthenon in Athens, Greece, one of the last few destinations in Europe that are open to visitors before lockdown 2.0 commences across many countries on the continent and with winter, quickly closing in on us. Taken on the 25th of October 2020.

Epiphany

I want you to know how much I appreciate you and how much you are loved. So here are 50 things I love about you…(and in no particular order).

  1. I love that you love me.
  2. I love that you learned how to cycle so that we could cycle together everywhere.
  3. I love that you are so in tune with your musical side.
  4. I love that we get to spend the most important times together.
  5. I love that you let me plan and take you to new places.
  6. I love that you are super happy and energetic when you’re drunk, just like I am.
  7. I love that you remind me to call my mum all the time.
  8. I love that you always know the best presents to get me.
  9. I love that you and I cook and eat everything together.
  10. I love that you always care about my health and safety wherever I am.
  11. I love that even when I joke about having six kids with me, you’re okay with that.
  12. I love that you know the real value of things and take good care of old things for a long time.
  13. I love that you talk to your mum and dad everyday. It shows how much you care about those you love.
  14. I love that bring me back down to earth when I’m too far in the clouds, but also let me pursue realistic dreams.
  15. I love that you laugh at all my lame jokes, that I’m not the only one laughing at them anymore.
  16. I love how you taught me how to sing and dance to “I’m a little teacup” in Chinese.
  17. I love that you put up with the historian in me.
  18. I love that we are both strong, that we both carry our own weight and sometimes you can even carry mine.
  19. I love that you love the outdoors as much as I do.
  20. I love that you enjoy long walks, like our really really really long walks.
  21. I love that you are always so switched on, that you always know what to do even when my mind is in zombie mode.
  22. I love that you are such a kid sometimes, that we can both be kids around each other.
  23. I love making our little positive habits that we’ve made for each other, like keeping snacks out of the house and reading before bed.
  24. I love that you only want the very best of the best so that it can last forever.
  25. I love that you always remember the million things I forget about every single day.
  26. I love that you always save me the last and best slice of food.
  27. I love that you want to do more and more hobbies together.
  28. I love that you are willing to give up a lot to be with me.
  29. I love when you jump around and laugh and smile and are really cute when you’re happy.
  30. I love when you show me that you’re a flower.
  31. I love that you brought Monkey Jay into my life.
  32. I love that you are so huggy and cuddly all the time.
  33. I love that you have lots of eye brows when I wake up to see you.
  34. I love that you put up with my gaming habits and even game with me too!
  35. I love that you have achieved so many things in your life so far.
  36. I love that you love and get along so well with my childhood teddy bear, Beary.
  37. I love that we hold hands to bed each and every night.
  38. I love that you are shorter than me.
  39. I love that you think everything is funny.
  40. I love that you like to live life within your means just like I do and know how to appreciate all that we already have.
  41. I love that you are so focussed on your career.
  42. I love that you get along so well with my family.
  43. I love that you grew up with good morals and beliefs.
  44. I love that we both want the same things for our future family, kids and home.
  45. I love that you’re a really understanding and patient person when it comes to everything.
  46. I love that you teach me how to be a romantic like you.
  47. I love that you will take on challenges and things that you’re scared of because you trust that I’ll take care of you if anything happens.
  48. I love that I’m hot and you’re cool in bed so that we stay warm each night.
  49. I love that you love animals so much, especially every time you see a dog or cat and scream.
  50. And last but not least, I love you just because my heart tell me to.

I hope you know how much I love you, more and more each and every day. Next time I’ll aim for a hundred more 🙂

An Appetite for Risk

The appetite for risk is an incredibly powerful topic not only in the world of business but also in our personal lives. Over the years I have learned that our appetite for risk varies so incredibly much from person to person, from experience to experience, but like all businesses, without the right balance of risk and reward management we too can fail to thrive to become the best that we can be or worse off become left behind in an ever changing world.

“The level of risk that an organization is prepared to accept in pursuit of its objectives, before action is deemed necessary to reduce the risk”

Wikipedia

It’s not our fault that our appetite for risk is where it is at. A large portion of it stems from our past experiences. A child who is yelled at for speaking his truth may choose to keep his thoughts to himself the next time round. Conversely, an adult who risks driving a bit too fast to save a few minutes in life may actually take a life instead. Risk, like many things is what it is to it’s viewer.

So, is there a “right” way to approach risk? Is there a better way then just trusting our instincts from our incredibly varied and unpredictable past experiences? I say there is.

Like any great organisation that understand themselves and their objectives well, we too have to understand our ourselves and what we hope to achieve. Only by having our objectives in mind can we assess the risk we are willing to take to achieve it, that much is obvious. We know that risk is a daily action, we take risks every single day of our lives, but the real important risks we take are those with long lasting effects on who we are, the path we take, the wellbeing we add to ourselves. This is one of the things we’re not good at, we too often take risks as they spring out into our lives as if to surprise us that they were ever there. Imagine an organisation tackling risks only as they appeared and never as they predicted; oh the stress! So then, why is it that we do the same in our lives?

So firstly appetite for risk is knowing why it is worth to take the risk even when the risk has yet to appear in your life.

What we also don’t do well is seeing our risk appetite as a polarisation effect. That we “know” that a result of this risk or that, we will or will not do this. Most of us know that a polarisation of any belief is not good. To keep an open mind is the introduction of any critical thought, of empathy with another. So like so, ones risk appetite shall never be set in stone. We must understand the guard rails in which we must operate within. It is often fear/ fear of failure that drives the polarisation of why we should not take a risk and my one admiration of fear is that it is incredibly convincing, that fear’s grip makes you easily believe that what it says is true, forcing away all other beliefs that might say otherwise.

So secondly, as our world changes ever so fast, our appetite for risk must also change with it.

The last point I’d like to make is the understanding of how risk affects and is affected by our internal and external environment. With any risk we take, we must take into account the full range of benefits and consequences and not just pick those that support your own argument. This is incredibly important because too often do we refuse to accept the existence of one or the other when making decisions. The textbook definition of these considerations include; financial, health, recreational, ethical, social and information. I’ll leave it to you to think about these and where you might do better to think about.

The appetite for risk is complex because we as humans are inherently complex. We all have our views and beliefs on what levels of risk are acceptable to us; too often do we express those views to others without the full consideration of our own views. Is there a right way to approach risk? no, not really, but there often is a more better way than you may think.

Thanks for reading. What is your risk appetite?

Wishing you all the best, Jason.

Feature image – Moving to London, a risk I chose to take even against all odds and logic at the time but has defined much of who I am and what I know to this day. Taken on the 17th of January 2019.

The Greatest

“Use your position as leverage for the positive change you want to see. Aim to be the greatest not for yourself, but for all those who need you to be; and for all those who never had the opportunity”

JayysNotes

Personal Context – This quote came about as the year 2020 closes, a year where a large bit of my free time was taken up by activities relating to the chairing of the young professionals committee at my company. Looking back, there were many a great achievements, mistakes and hurdles that I had to overcome but it has to be one of the most eye opening things I’d ever done. Being in a position of respective power allowed me to push agenda’s which really made a difference, but more importantly, it allowed for conversations with people and organisations in which I would never have made bringing me up through the company’s structure and back down.

For 2021, I was voted in to become YP chair of an even more prominent organisation, the Institute of Engineering & Technology. So it makes me think, how far can I take this? How far can I use my title, my position to drive the values and beliefs that I truly believe in that with positively change the lives of others?

5 Years Ago

5 years ago we all were well met.

Many of us have become incredibly great friends of one another in the time between. Many others have found ourselves spread out across the world on different soils in which they’ve found opportunities to do what you love.

Wherever we are in our lives right now, I hope that you are all healthy and well and are being the amazing version of you that we met here.

Let us reunite and tell stories of our journeys soon again!

Thanks for being a positive part of my life, always here to catch up ♥️

Becoming a Better Conversationalist

GOALS – The most amazing thing about conversations with people are those in which you are walking away feeling engaged and inspired, when you feel like you have made a real connection and or are feeling perfectly understood.

  1. Don’t multitask – Be present, be in THAT moment. Don’t be half in and half out of it.
  2. Don’t pontificate – Enter every conversation assuming that there is something to learn. Set aside all of your personal opinions and beliefs. Everyone is an expert at something
  3. Use open ended questions – Who, what, when, where, what are the words to use!
  4. Go with the flow – questions and ideas will come into mind in the middle of a conversation but be careful not to hold onto them in your mind as this will stop your listening, let those questions and ideas come and go.
  5. If you don’t know, then say that you don’t know.
  6. Don’t equate your experience with theirs – It is NEVER the same. All experiences are individual and more importantly it is not about you. Conversations are not a promotional opportunity.
  7. Try not to repeat yourself – It is really condescending.
  8. Stay out of the weeds – People don’t care about the little details (years, dates, names etc). They care about you, what you are like and what you have in common.
  9. LISTEN – we’d all rather talk than listen, but when we talk, we don’t learn. Steven Covey said that most people don’t listen to understand, we listen with the intent to reply.
  10. Be prepared to be amazed.

Thanks for reading, keep learning! Jason ❤

Feature image – One of the last great team outings with my old team back in Sydney before I left for London, as always, we had a great time out! Taken on the 8th of October 2018.

Introduction to Philosophy – Personal Summary Notes

These are my personal notes taken to help understand the content behind philosophical questions in our world.


Week 1

What is philosophy?

  • “The study of the fundamental nature of knowledge, reality, and existence, especially when considered as an academic discipline.”
  • Is it an activity, a way of working out what is the right way to to think about things.
  • The question “why” is used a lot to justify the ways of thinking
  • Philosophy is challenging because it takes on what we think we know and are comfortable with or take for granted.
  • Philosophical questioning does not always have to be big and bold, it can be be about mundane topics and arise anywhere. the important thing is to understand how important it is to think about one over another.

The activity

  • A valid argument is one in which the truth of its conclusion follows from the truth of its premises