YOU taught me

Throughout life, there are people who come into your life and change you.

It’s often that these people never know how much they’ve impacted on your life, because to them they are just being themselves; but to you, they are the heroes in your story. They are the ones who make us a better person inside and out, who teach us something valuable that we often look back upon in times of uncertainty and ambiguity. These people are our heroes, our guardian angels that come into our lives as swiftly as they leave but have imprinted a part of themselves in you for a lifetime.

Take notice of them. Remember them. Choose to be better because of them.

For those whom have changed my life, this is for you and this is what you have taught me.

CM – If you’re not going to do it, then no one will is the vibe you gave off when I was around you. The more I go through life, the more I realise how true this is. It’s rare to find people who are willing to take charge of everything they do, those are the people who actually move things along because they absolutely hate how slow things can move in almost all aspects of their life. They’re not satisfied with the status quo, that things have always been done this way because to them that was is incredibly inefficient and slow. You are one of those and you get things done because you do them. Sometimes you say that it’s because no one else can do it (who knows, maybe your right, or maybe a bit more leadership will help those whom struggle do better? not sure). But the teaching is there, that if you want to change something, if you want to get things moving, get things to the way you like it, sometimes you just have to take it in the chin and do it yourself. Thanks for showing me this CM.

IP – Calm, even when the world around you is burning to the ground. Stoic is what people would call you even if you didn’t know it. Over the years I’ve been around you, I’ve enjoyed one aspect more than any other, to observe you (in a humorous way not creepy ha!). I find it fascinating how put together your sentences are, you talk slowly but very succinctly in an easy to understand, easy to follow manner and in such that everyone in the room knows that we’re all moving towards the same goal. This isn’t just in the normal day to day, it’s during times of incredible stress and hardship that it shines the most because you don’t change, you still have the same, calm, relaxed, “everything will be okay” vibe going about you. Wish I could do the same and I do try, but thank you for showing me how it’s done.

JB – You’re the JB so you know who you are without introduction. You are a great friend, infinitely more caring of others than people can see at first. Maybe it’s because that inner circle of yours is really the only people you care about and everyone else can get lost is probably what you would say. You show you care by doing the exact opposite, it took me some time to realise this but I look back now and everything we’ve ever done is a million times more hilarious and fun. Making us do ridiculous things by egging us on and threatening us if we don’t has always made for a funny but scary experience; In the end there’s always a stupid story to tell, someone making a fool out of ourselves only to have you make sure we get home safe and sound. You are a true friend and JB, thank you for that.

JB No.2 – “Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe” by Abraham Lincoln. You told me this on one sunny day when I was young and eager to learn. I’d never at the time managed any projects on my own but when I finally got around to it, this quote just kept coming to mind and of course, you, the person who reminded me of it. I’ve extended this further than work but into my own life because come to think about it, how often do we actually sit down and plan our actions towards the goals we set ourselves? not nearly enough I would say. With every project I lead, every goal and dream I have, I plan now more than ever, I leave room for spontaneity, but don’t allow any spontaneity to push me off track. Thank you for teaching me that planning is the path to success JB.

KC – HOW ARE YOU? is pretty much the most common statement we have both said to each other. Seriously, I’m pretty sure we both don’t actually mean it because I hope things are doing shit without me back home; yes, I just want you to miss having me around. hahaha. In all seriousness though, you are a good mate, you’ve taught me what the most sociable butterfly looks like and that’s you man. You’re a wildflower, you grow a bit of your wild self in every person you meet and I think that’s pretty awesome. You actually care a lot about people and you definitely know how to show it. This is one of the most important lessons that you have taught me, how to show that you care. We text each other nonsensical texts on most days that consists of one liners such as “WAKE UP” “GO HOME” “OI” ” I HOPE YOU DIE FROM ALCOHOL POISONING” and the reply’s not too dissimilar. For readers, please don’t read too much into this but all I have to say to you KC is cheers mate, take good care of yourself and MY, and don’t fuck up, but if you do, I’ll catch you.

KK – A kind, loving and forgiving heart is the gift that you have. You taught me how to take care of myself, how we shouldn’t be so harsh to ourselves when things don’t work out the way we want it to. You taught me that there will always be people around you who are experiencing or have experienced similar emotions that you are feeling at this moment and together, you can get through anything life throws at you. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help. Many years ago, we reached out to each other and helped each other get through some of the toughest times of our lives and there’s nothing more I can say but thank you. We will always be great friends because of that. We only have to look at how far we’ve come since then to realise what felt like a dead end in our path was only a small hump in the road of life!

PS – maaatteee, I’m going to miss having you around but you know what, everything happens for a reason right and we’ll make the most of whatever comes our way. I’ve never seen sombody who loves music as much as you do. How are you still alive right now with all those late nights at pubs and clubs watching gigs till the am’s. It’s a big part of your life and I can see it, it shines out of you like an eminating glow. You’ve taught me how easy it is for ones passion to shine right through them and feel like it’s ovewhelming and even influencing yourself. The power to truly be passionate about something is what I seek for as well, it’s a question I’ve asked myself for many years. I think I’ve found some of it and I can only hope that it eminates from me as much as I can see music does for you!

WT – High energy! is what I can say about you. It’s quite incredible to watch actually. You are at your highest of highs when you are surrouded by good friends and good music and I think that’s where you shine. Even for someone like me, who can also have quite high energy, you manage to top that and show me how exciting it can be to get to know other people. We don’t know each other as well as we’d both like to but that will change soon. What I do know is that althought in person we always see the highest of highs in you, when you’re alone, it becomes your lowest of lowes. It’s something you’ve mentioned to me before and maybe in the next few months, it’s something I can show you too, how to be comfortable in your own shoes when all you have is yourself.

To You – Koala

I’ve always admired… your thoughts, your honesty and the banter that we gave each other.

When we last spoke…we talked about how awesome it was for us to see and hang out with each other overseas. How some of the best moments were made when we both felt free from everything, to just lay down and talk into that night sky. I think that was pretty awesome too! We’re a lot like each other, I think we kind of saw that over the years, but the thing that makes us most different is our sense of the world around us, you’re a true realist and myself a true optimist at heart. In so many ways I know sometimes that I should be more like you, think more about the reality of what my future might look like instead of having my head always in the cloud. It’s harder though, for me to do than you think. But in any sense, I think we’re both holding it together and doing well for ourselves either way. Maybe it shows that there really are many paths to one end goal.

What struck me most…was our conversation on love and life. You alllwaayysss like to poke at the things I say, break them apart to make me see a flaw in my own argument. That’s not always fair though. I say things even I don’t fully understand, but that’s not a lack of me trying, I’d like to think it’s a lack of depth in the English Language. I know you’d laugh at that when you read it. *giggles*. I can, however say that I thoroughly enjoyed our conversation on the topic and I came out of it with more questions; for myself. Upon some of the favourite things I will remember is that, and as lame as it sounds, love really does come when you least expect it; and that time, perserverance and choice are factors that come into play when it comes to that love and life.

In 5 years time…you’re not exactly sure where you will be in life, but you do have a 3 year outlook. You seek some more stability in your life, a good job that challenges you but doesn’t cause you stress, a good boy who supports you through life, a place you can call home. We’re both feeling older each and everyday (but still I push that we are so youthful at heart). I think a lot of us at our age feel the same way, we don’t want to use the term “settle down”. Our generation is stuck inbetween two strong rifts of change, the more traditional past which emphasises a stable long lived life and the modern generation of youthfuls who have grown up in a world of change so fast that to stay in any one place causes so much unease. I just want to say that I understand you Koala, it’s something I think about a lot too.

I’m sad…that things have moved so fast! we’ve only hanged out a handful of times over the past few years, but even then we can talk and catch up so easily. Fear not though, we both may very well see each other in Europe next year! 🙂

I’m happy…that you have good friends (and a singular very good friend 😉 ) and family that surround you and your life. I’m happy that you are taking on challenges that are way beyond what even you think you can achieve, but I must remind you to not give up, that it looks like you are learning, growing and becoming a more incredible person each and every day. Trust and believe in yourself and you will go far, plus, we all have your back!

I wish…you all the very best in the future. Good luck on that job search, that change in pace from the over-responsibility you’ve received in recent times. Good luck with you and your boy, he sounds like a great catch! Honesty and preserverence remember? 🙂

To You – Nugget Patronus

I’ve always admired how knowledgeable you are, especially with those things in which you’re most passionate about.

It always feels like we havn’t known each other for long, but maybe that’s because there’s still a lot we don’t know about each other! Much more for our future selves to learn then.

When we last spoke, we talked about how our lives have both been very different this year. That this year we’ve both been spending our time and energy on something rather different from the past; we could both say that we have become a lot busier in our lives. You took a small step back from some of the things you used to enjoy doing from putting your incredible blog on hold, to your unique cooking and travelling adventures. You haven’t been exploring and hiking as much as you used to as well; was it you showing me your new area or was it me showing you? 😛

But all of this, we realised that maybe this was not actually a bad thing, it has taught us so much about the value of our time and energy. We concluded that it is okay to put things on hold to expand and build ourselves in other areas. You shifted your time and energy on your studies and found an interesting area of work that you might now want to pursue. Meanwhile, I shifted a lot of mine towards my work, learning as much as I can before I make my move in January; to me, there’s nothing more important to me right now than to be a valued member of my new team. So maybe this “busy” is more like concentration, it’s more like what do we have to do now to ensure our success in the future, and some of it just happens to be some temporary sacrifices for the greater good.

Aside from this, you couldn’t help but be difficult with your choice of food again but we settled at somewhere super yummy and photo-worthy for you. I was adamant in saying that the dessert we had was THE best dessert I’ve ever had, you were quickly taken aback by my rash conclusion, a mere few bites after entering the realm of sweetness; big call for me to make you said. Maybe by the end, you could see how powerless I was over the desert and you’d changed your mind as well.

There’s so much more we talked about that evening, from the beauty of the river and Melbourne like feel of the Parramatta city to our enjoyment of ducks and interesting way birds fall asleep, the truth is it is so easy for us to talk about almost everything, if only you’d not walk so fast ahead!

There’s a few more thing’s I forgot to ask you, but I’ll leave that for another day 🙂