Parents

“I’ve always believed that your parents want the best for you, but at the same time, they don’t always know what that is. As much heartache as it may cause, it’s about standing up for your beliefs, who you are and what you want in life, instead of just being what they would like you to be. They will, in time see that you are your own person, that you have and always will honestly and wholeheartedly take in consideration the advice they give; but ultimately make your own path In life. When they see this, and it will take time, they will not only be proud of who you have become (a strong, independent individual), but you will also have grown to be someone you are proud of, incorporating some of your parents greatest strengths and teachings along with your very own and where your heart lies.”

Jason Li

Feature image – Graduation Day. The University of Technology, Sydney, Australia. Taken on the 9th of May 2017

Positivity & Optimism

The truth is, I don’t have any more potential in life than anyone else in the world does.

But what I do have, is a high level of positivity and optimism for the future of both myself and those around me; this is undeniable and more importantly, this is unchanging.

Most of the success in my personal life, no matter how small or big can be attributed to one of only a few things and the biggest one of them all is my perspective. I view a large number of situations with a positive outlook, to see the light in even the darkest situations; just as Ying and Yang is present in our lives, it is also present in every situation, no matter how grim it looks. To be able to break down into pieces what it is that is bringing you sadness, sorrow and pain and holding onto the piece that can give you hope Is a strength that can get you through even the toughest times in your life.

For example, my first job as a door to door salesman on full commission during my summer holidays. I spent the first 3 weeks, working 40+ hours walking the streets of Sydney without a single sale to be made. Do you wonder why the turnover ate was 95%? It was a brutal role for anyone who started in the industry, imagine pissing off almost everyone you meet just because you said hi to them at the door (yes, I was that annoying door salesman, but little do you know I’m just trying to work hard and make ends meat so you shut the door on my face). So by the end of those 3 weeks, 80% of the 20 odd people, those who were in my training session from the beginning had quit, they couldn’t handle the pressure and rejection, and to be honest rightly so, It was tough. But you see, instead of seeing the zero in my bank check after every week, I saw growth in myself, I found little changes in the way I spoke and moved when I talked to people and for the first time In my life, that shy little asian boy felt potential within himself and no doubt in the fourth week, he’d made his first of what would be a great number of sales which put him on the top 10 salesman of the month of September, that fately 2012 year.

Following closely is my undying optimism that everything and anything will find it’s way around. It’s interesting how sometimes people can be pessemistic about others being an optimist, but then again, I could say the same for pessimists and realists, however I don’t. I think that all three can bring a powerful perspective to a situation, when used correctly. One cannot be blind to their own strength and must throw themselves into the shoes of the others. It’s important to see how things can go wrong if certain actions are taken, or how the what is being discussed does not match the reality of what might happen, but equally as important is the fact that there is someone that can believe that there is a solution. Sometimes, I am my own weakness in this part, It’s rare that I say that something cannot be done and this can be both a gift or can be a disaster waiting to happen, it’s something I need to think about within myself.

It’s hard to pinpoint exactly where my optimism has brought me over the years, but what I do know is that I see opportunities in almost everything I do just because of it. When I started my current occupation over 3 and a half years ago now (as an Intern Electrical Engineer), I knew that one day I would have the experience to be able to meet a major milestone and goal of mine, to work overseas. I never doubted myself for a moment in those 3 and a half years, I just knew that it was possible, that It can happen and just the “knowing” gave me confidence to (and this is the most important part) make little steps, goals and milestones towards making it happen. I think a lot of people think optimism gets you knowhere, that your dreams stay only as dreams in an optimists world and It’s true that we do dream a lot, but it is within our dreams, our bright lit visions of the world where our ideas begin and with the right mindset we can put things into action that ensure that our dreams truly become reality.

 

What in your own personality do you think has brought the most success in your life?

Thanks for reading ❤ Jason

 

Feature image – teamLab Borderless Light Museum, Tokyo, Japan taken on the 6th December 2018

Be Insecure

Maybe we can define our best of friends as those in which you are able to be most vulnerable with.

Because how often do we fail to express how we really feel? How often do we choose to hold back what’s at the tips of our hearts? How often do we hide behind the walls of vulnerability? To be scared that you will be judged, scared of your own potential, scared of the outcomes.

 I truly think that in today’s world, to show vulnerability is not to show weakness but instead to show how strong you really are.

There are those of you who find it easy to open up to people, to tell your story. Then there are those who prefer to keep their stories close by their side. I don’t think this is always a measure of somebody’s vulnerability though rather more a measure of their personality and traits. Not everyone can open up to strangers, for example. At the end of the day we need to feel secure to open up to someone. So imagine how others perceive you, do they see you as someone who they can open up to?

The Science of Motivation

Each day we wake up. We experience life. The good and the bad. What is it that keeps us motivated to keep going? It is so often that times are tough, many of us wake up each morning dreading the work day ahead, I myself am included in that group from time to time. What really changes this is the way we think about it. You see, it’s a test of your mental strength to wake up, to see a situation, to flip your circumstance on it’s head.

We have to ask ourselves why we do what we do each day. If we can find an answer for that, then you can find motivation within it. Some of the greatest reasons for me to wake up each morning are relatable to why others do too, let me give you some reasons.

  • For the family. For those of you who know me, you’ll know that The Godfather is my favourite movie of all time. The movie represents something that is what makes us humans prosper in this world and that is the ability to work together, empathis and socialise with one another. Family does not only refer to blood, although in many a past this has been the case. But if we dig deeper, family actually means to protect the ones in which you love and care for most and as humans develop and the world becomes ever more connected, we inevitably remove old titles in the meaning of family like blood and relatives and instead adopt the word as it’s true meaning, one which sees every human as one enothers brothers and sisters. But we are still yet to reach the utopian society I envision in my mind, so family to me and to you means those in which you love and care for the most in your lives and that Is the first and foremost.
  • To change the world. One of my favourite songs, Michael Jackson’s – Man in the Mirror tells me something, that by looking within and changing ourselves we are inherently making the world a better place for all. We all contribute to the greater society in one way or another, no matter who you are or what you do. The work we do each day may seem invaluable or pointless in the whole scale of things, but without it, our society would not function. We have to see that for what it is, take a step back and see how our work each day makes a real impact on the world and people around us because I guarantee you can find that in anything that you do; which leads onto my next point.
  • To get you to where you want to be. In other words, what you are doing today, the things you learn, create and achieve will allow you to move to where your goals are in the future. I know the whole goals, passion and dreams thing is all the buzz these days but for humanity, or more specifically by the luck of being the 1% born here in the developed world, we have the luxury to even understand these terms, let alone try to seek them and to seek them is truly one of the most toughest but rewarding things you will ever find in life. So please, my friends, I beg of you, please seek and never give up, which follows onto our next point.
  • To do it for the little guy. To do it for those who don’t even have the chance. To do it for those in which are unable. This one is among one of the most heartfelt reasons why we must push on. You may not realise but by the luck of the universe, we have been gifted the ability to think and reflect, by the luck of where we are born we have been given the chance at life, the true freedoms that almost all of humanity has been working towards is here and now despite all the negativity that surrounds us about how things are not going right. So how can we take this for granted? how can we sit here and not do the best we can for those who are not so lucky, for those who have not been given a chance and for those who are unable. We must stay strong if not for anything, for them.
  • And finally, to be the best that you can be. There is no excuse to not doing the best that you can in everything that you do. Key words, the best that you can. Only you can truly know what that means and it’s in no comparison to anyone else. It should never ever be in comparison to anyone else as hard as that may be. But in a society that compares one another’s potention this is hardly something you can avoid. I’m telling you to avoid it nonetherless. Because it is truly a personal feat to know that you have achieved all you can on any given day.

A heartfelt topic, and for me it’s something I think about every single day. What motivates you to do what you do each day? I ask you to please ask yourself and do not fear the answer, instead, embrace it.

 

Stay strong and thanks for reading friends. Always.

Love, Jason.

 

Spring 18′

As Spring takes the stage this year, it marks the beginning of the most festive time of the year 🌻🌸🦋🍓🍹At the same time it is the most vibrant, bright in her shades of green, yellow, red, purple and pink!

It’s often seasons pass without any notice and that’s true of so many things in life, so let’s all take a moment to appreciate the beautiful Earth we live knowing that to even have a seasonal change is a miracle on it’s own.

For me, it will be a bitter sweet moment as I spend my last few months here in Sydney with my closest of friends and family. It will be a challenge to balance the workload that will be coming not only in terms of my relationships and the workplace but also the preparations before the move.

For you, Spring is a time of change. A chance to start fresh and new. Spring is a time to take off that heavy coat that’s been weighing you down. It’s a time to celebrate growth and action, reflecting upon those dreams that you have put on hold throughout the cold Winter.

I hope that we all can enjoy this years Spring because before you know it, it’s winter again…for me it is at least up there in the Northern Hemisphere.

Thanks for reading ❤

The Thought of You

It is the thought of you,

that keeps my heart beating

through my chest.

The thought of you,

that keeps me warm at night

as I roll myself into bed.

The thought of you,

that makes me smile away

at random times throughout the day.

The thought of you,

and most importantly

and me.

You and me

dancing in the rain,

singing along to something sweet,

sweeping each other off our feet.

It really is the thought of you I think,

that makes life worth living.

Because it is with you

that my life

truly begins.

❤️

It’s hard waiting for that someone that can make you feel this way. But in my sleep and dreams it is something I can only hope to imagine right now in my life. I hope we all find that special someone that we can share this feeling with, and when we do, know how truly lucky we are to have it 🙂

You Never Know

I’ve always said that you really never know who you will meet in life, where you will meet them and how they will change your life in absolutely incredible and sometimes crazy ways. You have to always remember that whatever happens, whether they have been thought of as “good” or “bad” experiences, they make you, you! the beautiful person you are.

I guarantee you that you are or will be (at least in time) double the more smarter, triple the more happier and a bazillion times the more wiser because of that chance encounter.

So always see the people you meet in life as a good thing, something to learn from, something to appreciate and take time for and who knows, maybe someone to spend the rest of your life with as well ❤️

Vision

Imagine

Think far ahead of your time

30 Years

40 Years

50 Years

Where are you?

What do you see?

What gives your life purpose?

Who are the people that are still in your life?

What beliefs have you held onto and which have you left behind?

And the good habits that you have kept?

The morals that have shaped you?

Think about it deeply

Who are you really?

Imagine your life

Envision

I believe that if you can envision where you want to be in life 30, 40 or 50 years ahead of time, it will be achievable no matter what life’s circumstances. The little bumps in the road that you face today are truly nothing when pit against the possibilities of what you are after. As long as you keep that dream in mind and the choices you make are chosen with your heart and the feelings within your gut, you cannot fail.

For each an every one of us is guided by the universe and it’s signs. Some would call them our good omens or the Karma in which we balance our world, just like the Yin and Yang; others would swear the existence of our own guardian angels who protect us and guide us through this life. Whatever it may be, the sheer belief in the possibilities is what makes life worth living.

“When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it” – Paulo Coelho

 

Thanks for reading ❤ and keep on believing!

Numb

It’s a feeling like nothing.

Expressionless

Staring into the distance

Waiting for the time to pass, for the pain to pass

But is it even pain you ask

You don’t really know how you feel

Emotionless

Maybe just sad

Tired, breathing

Why do you feel this way?

Will it ever go away?

Numb

Against everything around you

Against life

Numb to the things that you used to care about

Numb to those you love so much

That’s right, too numb to even love

Take a deep breath

Everything will be okay

 

Note: To those who ask if I am okay, thank you and I am ❤ It’s just something I and I think we all experience in life from time to time. I’m not sure if any of it makes sense to you but it has to me in the past and I feel that it will too once again; because this is within us all.