YOU taught me

Throughout life, there are people who come into your life and change you.

It’s often that these people never know how much they’ve impacted on your life, because to them they are just being themselves; but to you, they are the heroes in your story. They are the ones who make us a better person inside and out, who teach us something valuable that we often look back upon in times of uncertainty and ambiguity. These people are our heroes, our guardian angels that come into our lives as swiftly as they leave but have imprinted a part of themselves in you for a lifetime.

Take notice of them. Remember them. Choose to be better because of them.

For those whom have changed my life, this is for you and this is what you have taught me.

CM – If you’re not going to do it, then no one will is the vibe you gave off when I was around you. The more I go through life, the more I realise how true this is. It’s rare to find people who are willing to take charge of everything they do, those are the people who actually move things along because they absolutely hate how slow things can move in almost all aspects of their life. They’re not satisfied with the status quo, that things have always been done this way because to them that was is incredibly inefficient and slow. You are one of those and you get things done because you do them. Sometimes you say that it’s because no one else can do it (who knows, maybe your right, or maybe a bit more leadership will help those whom struggle do better? not sure). But the teaching is there, that if you want to change something, if you want to get things moving, get things to the way you like it, sometimes you just have to take it in the chin and do it yourself. Thanks for showing me this CM.

IP – Calm, even when the world around you is burning to the ground. Stoic is what people would call you even if you didn’t know it. Over the years I’ve been around you, I’ve enjoyed one aspect more than any other, to observe you (in a humorous way not creepy ha!). I find it fascinating how put together your sentences are, you talk slowly but very succinctly in an easy to understand, easy to follow manner and in such that everyone in the room knows that we’re all moving towards the same goal. This isn’t just in the normal day to day, it’s during times of incredible stress and hardship that it shines the most because you don’t change, you still have the same, calm, relaxed, “everything will be okay” vibe going about you. Wish I could do the same and I do try, but thank you for showing me how it’s done.

JB – You’re the JB so you know who you are without introduction. You are a great friend, infinitely more caring of others than people can see at first. Maybe it’s because that inner circle of yours is really the only people you care about and everyone else can get lost is probably what you would say. You show you care by doing the exact opposite, it took me some time to realise this but I look back now and everything we’ve ever done is a million times more hilarious and fun. Making us do ridiculous things by egging us on and threatening us if we don’t has always made for a funny but scary experience; In the end there’s always a stupid story to tell, someone making a fool out of ourselves only to have you make sure we get home safe and sound. You are a true friend and JB, thank you for that.

JB No.2 – “Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe” by Abraham Lincoln. You told me this on one sunny day when I was young and eager to learn. I’d never at the time managed any projects on my own but when I finally got around to it, this quote just kept coming to mind and of course, you, the person who reminded me of it. I’ve extended this further than work but into my own life because come to think about it, how often do we actually sit down and plan our actions towards the goals we set ourselves? not nearly enough I would say. With every project I lead, every goal and dream I have, I plan now more than ever, I leave room for spontaneity, but don’t allow any spontaneity to push me off track. Thank you for teaching me that planning is the path to success JB.

KC – HOW ARE YOU? is pretty much the most common statement we have both said to each other. Seriously, I’m pretty sure we both don’t actually mean it because I hope things are doing shit without me back home; yes, I just want you to miss having me around. hahaha. In all seriousness though, you are a good mate, you’ve taught me what the most sociable butterfly looks like and that’s you man. You’re a wildflower, you grow a bit of your wild self in every person you meet and I think that’s pretty awesome. You actually care a lot about people and you definitely know how to show it. This is one of the most important lessons that you have taught me, how to show that you care. We text each other nonsensical texts on most days that consists of one liners such as “WAKE UP” “GO HOME” “OI” ” I HOPE YOU DIE FROM ALCOHOL POISONING” and the reply’s not too dissimilar. For readers, please don’t read too much into this but all I have to say to you KC is cheers mate, take good care of yourself and MY, and don’t fuck up, but if you do, I’ll catch you.

KK – A kind, loving and forgiving heart is the gift that you have. You taught me how to take care of myself, how we shouldn’t be so harsh to ourselves when things don’t work out the way we want it to. You taught me that there will always be people around you who are experiencing or have experienced similar emotions that you are feeling at this moment and together, you can get through anything life throws at you. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help. Many years ago, we reached out to each other and helped each other get through some of the toughest times of our lives and there’s nothing more I can say but thank you. We will always be great friends because of that. We only have to look at how far we’ve come since then to realise what felt like a dead end in our path was only a small hump in the road of life!

PS – maaatteee, I’m going to miss having you around but you know what, everything happens for a reason right and we’ll make the most of whatever comes our way. I’ve never seen sombody who loves music as much as you do. How are you still alive right now with all those late nights at pubs and clubs watching gigs till the am’s. It’s a big part of your life and I can see it, it shines out of you like an eminating glow. You’ve taught me how easy it is for ones passion to shine right through them and feel like it’s ovewhelming and even influencing yourself. The power to truly be passionate about something is what I seek for as well, it’s a question I’ve asked myself for many years. I think I’ve found some of it and I can only hope that it eminates from me as much as I can see music does for you!

WT – High energy! is what I can say about you. It’s quite incredible to watch actually. You are at your highest of highs when you are surrouded by good friends and good music and I think that’s where you shine. Even for someone like me, who can also have quite high energy, you manage to top that and show me how exciting it can be to get to know other people. We don’t know each other as well as we’d both like to but that will change soon. What I do know is that althought in person we always see the highest of highs in you, when you’re alone, it becomes your lowest of lowes. It’s something you’ve mentioned to me before and maybe in the next few months, it’s something I can show you too, how to be comfortable in your own shoes when all you have is yourself.

Habits

It’s interesting but not unexpected that when we talk about our habits, the first thing that comes to mind are our bad habits.

We all have them, those bad habits which have woven themselves into the fabric of our very existence. Those habits that you remember your mum telling you not to do all those years ago which you just can’t help but do them even today.

But look, I’m not here to talk about those “bad” habits because frankly, I don’t think they’re too important to think about. In fact, what I’m really here to talk about, are the good ones. You didn’t think there was such a thing? well, let’s explore.

Clear your thoughts about everything you have ever known about habits because it’s likely that all you know and can think of are the habits your mum has been telling you you’ve been doing wrong all your life. Now think about something that you do each and every day that is part of your routine that you know helps you get through that day or week. Here’s a tip, start small. Here’s another tip, think about how this habit makes you feel. Here’s an example below:

Good HabitFeelings/ A sense of…
Making the bedAchievement – First of the day
Imagining what the day ahead looks likeComfort – Knowing what lies ahead and what needs to be done
Putting down the toilet seat before you flushAssurance – No bacteria flushed into the air
Reading before bedExcitement – Adventure time!
5 minute walk every 30 minutes on the computerHealthy – Taking care of your wellbeing

The example above is purely an example only, the individual may have very different habits or even those which are the same but make them feel or have a sense of something totally different. That’s why habits are unique to you and only you have the power over them (or on the flip side, them over you!).

So yes, we all do have good habits that make us a better person even if only ever so slightly. What I wanted to point out was that habits should not be seen as a negative in our lives.

I find it interesting how throughout most of our lives, we grow up being told that habits are bad and that we should not have them. I now realise that habits are one of the most important things in life to have. Having an in-depth and clear understanding of how habits work, how they motivate you, how to build them for you and shape them to our will can truly change our lives in almost every way.

“We are the sum of our actions, and therefore our habits make all the difference.”

Aristotle

What makes us who we are is the habits we make, the things that we do day to day without us even consciously having to think about it. Imagine being able to have great habits be an automatic and natural process of your everyday life, how much could we achieve? how far could we take that? The problem is that with every habit, it takes time to build. The time you put into building these positive habits can take days, weeks, months or even years so the best time to start applying these is always today. But why is it such a time-consuming exercise? It is because you are fighting with your weapon in which is your willpower. Often, willpower is said to be like a muscle that one can train and build. I have not only found this to be incredibly true but also a lot tougher to do in practice than in words. Our willpower is (I dare say) even tougher than building our physical muscles! The fight is in our heads, our minds, something no one else can really help you “train” but yourself, that is what makes it so difficult.

Don’t let the above dissuade you, however. There are many techniques to help you tackle and “trick” your mind into strengthening those habits.

The most common is to start small and simple to achieve. You see, when you achieve something you set out to accomplish, no matter how big or small, the chemical reactions in your body change, you get a feeling of satisfaction through the release of numerous “happy” chemicals such as dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin. Let’s not get bogged down into the science of what each one is all about but it’s least to say that they encourage you to keep going, to keep doing what you are doing. One small step at a time, one small success after another can lead to big long term gains and before you know it, you’ve been building positive habits without you even knowing it.

Another common technique is to recognise and remove OR transform “triggers” into something more positive. Triggers are usually subtle things that bring upon what the action of the habit is. For example, seeing fried chicken might be a trigger for you to instantly think you’re hungry and in need for it (my personal weakness), if this is something you are trying to change, you can try to avoid known locations of KFC’s OR turn the sight of KFC into a reminder to do 10 start jumps, for example. That’s probably not the best example for everyone so here’s one that more down to Earth, how about when you see everyone around you pull out their phones on a crowded bus or train, that is usually a trigger for you to do the same even if you are scrolling through nothing of use. Try noticing that trigger each time you see it, then try doing something else when you notice it, such as pulling out a book (which is my trigger response too!) or closing your eyes to rest for a few minutes. Remember, triggers usually lead to the action in which becomes the habit; to overcome them, notice what triggers you and change them to something positive.

Finally, always remember that everything good in life takes time, if you falter at first, don’t give up! Sometimes it might be good to log your record number of hours or days you’ve been able to work on something but sometimes that can also be so unforgiving. Be forgiving to yourself, please; after all, we’re only human.

This is a big topic, there’s a lot of literature about it and I’ve only touched on the tip of the iceberg, my own little blurb and experience of it. What are your thoughts on it? Are habits something you think about? Do you want to change anything in your life right now and want to know how your habits could help you do so? PM me and let’s have a chat!

Thanks for reading, learning and being a better you ❤ Love to all, Jason

Feature image – A chicken representing my dangerous trigger, the fried chicken! taken on the 26th of March 2016.

Goals of 2020 – Shifting Habits

2020; but before I delve into the new year, I must reflect upon the last.

How would you describe 2019? Was it what you expected?

Incredibly enough, yes. A large part of 2019 went on as expected. To my surprise, a lot of predictions made about the year were indeed correct and the success of those goals set for the year demonstrate that with a cheerful glow. For a year to seem so full of uncertainty, how did I at the other side find it to be so foreseeable? Looking back, I think it has a lot to do with knowing myself quite well. If you’d asked me a year ago how do I’d balance my work life, my travels and my good health in this new country, I’d answer it in the exact same way I would now. I’d say that I’d promised myself not to overwork even if the conditions here in London were different back home, I’d say that I’d make sure to travel for the love of music, culture and the people and all three have been what exploring has been all about this year; finally, I’d say that I’d find a way to keep healthy in my own means, that involves something I will both enjoy and keep me in good shape and not only has that been true, but it’s also been incredible for the finances, now with me cooking healthy meals more than ever and cycling to and from work.

What was harder than I anticipated this year was the ability to really be a part of a community here. It’s hard to say what happened throughout the course of the year to cause this feeling because even though I felt like I did try (for example, dancing classes, board game nights, joining an esports community). Why is it so that I don’t yet “feel” I was part of a real strong community? This is a tough question to answer and my first blog post for the year will try to answer this, but for now, let’s stick to goals.

Like every year I inscribe my goals, dreams and passions for the upcoming year. This year we see more bigger, bolder and challenging goals than the previous, wish me luck!

  1. A sense of community – I’m cheating by bringing this one over from 2019 but to me, it’s unfinished. I underestimated how tough this was to achieve, maybe it’s London, maybe it’s me? Check out one of my early posts in Jan 2020 for a deeper look into it but for now, there’s more I can do to uphold this goal of mine and it is a challenge I will take on head first. To summarise, I am in search to make a deep connection with a community here in London, i.e be an integral part of at least one community organisation or group by the end of 2020.
  2. My road to Engineering Chartership – I love being an engineer for so many reasons, the work I do is satisfying, challenging and gives me purpose and meaning. That’s why, I am taking on a great challenge to take the first steps towards Engineering Chartership showing a dedication to the field and respect for all those who have come before me and shared their combined wisdom. I’ve already set up an ambitious timetable separate to this blog, wish me luck.
  3. Travelling and exploring – 2019 was an absolutely incredible year of experiences gained from travelling and exploring. I am still in total reflection of everything that has happened in the past year but in summary I have been totally humbled and have grown in ways of empathy and understanding that have helped reshaped some of my core beliefs and ideals. It’s important to remember that my travels this year will continue to be led by my love for music, culture and people just as it was in 2019. What I must do this year however is to make sure I meet more people along the way! How about, set a goal to go to at least one event where people gather (non music festival related) per holiday.
  4. Advanced cooking and baking – Here we go! ready for Jason’s masterclass? cause he’s not ready at all to do one hah! But with that being said, from knowing pretty much nothing about cooking or baking at the beginning of 2019 and now making myself delicious meals (I rarely go out and eat now because let’s face it, I can pretty much make the same at home myself), I’ve been pretty happy with myself. The question is, how do I continue to challenge myself in the field? Well, how about some real entries into the cookbook? Well that’s my goal, let’s get a cookbook going this year! (or maybe a spreadsheet, let’s see about that!).
  5. Sunday me day – This is something I am bringing back from my former 2018 years. 2019 was a tough year to keep up with this because I was always on my toes, but now I am more settled, I want to bring back Sunday me day. What does that involve? It’s easy, it’s relaxing, it’s a break from having to “do” things. I make sure nothing is on the calendar for Sundays and I make it a day to do whatever feels right, it could be anything from sleeping, blogging, gaming for a whole days end. But what I am really looking forward to is turning the day into a weekly “activity” day. Let’s say I want to learn more about knitting. I would set up what it looks like to do a 5 day course in knitting and over the course of 5 Sundays, I would practice the art. It’s self learning, but doing something that makes me happy and learning a new skill at the same time.
  6. Reading – Does anyone know how I can learn to read faster? Seriously, I want to read 50+ books a year but only get through a pinch of that if I am lucky. It doesn’t make it any easier that I always tend to pick pretty thick books! I want to and must read more this year, substantially more. I am setting myself a goal of 24 books this year, it’s going to be tough, 2 books per month and I’m already a bit behind. It’s something I love to do so let’s make it a priority.
  7. Fitness – Let’s be honest here, cycling on average half an hour a day for the year, I don’t think I can top that and I’m not sure I need to. I’m happy with my fitness levels, I feel healthy and great! Unless I suddenly have the urge to join a sumo class or some sort, let’s be humble and proud to keep doing what I’m doing. 30 minutes on average each day for the year cycling. GO! 🙂
  8. Meditation & lucid dreaming – I began the practice of meditation over 10 years ago and what ties closely with that was the ability to learn to lucid dream. The peace and joy it often brought me when I practised these and even today, I still meditate, only the meditation that I have learned to embed into my life is done throughout the day in small 5 minute chunks. If you spend enough time with me you sometimes notice I pause and go all quiet, those are moments of clarity of mind and deep thought. I do want to try something new though, I’d like to attend some regular meditation classes and I do want to recall more dreams and have more lucid dreams than I do now. Let’s set a goal of joining at least 5 meditation sessions and writing at least 6 dreams this year in this blog.

So with that, I leave you with a thought. What are your goals for the year? How do you plan to be the best person that you can be during the year. Comment or message me personally, I would truly like to know OR have you simply not thought about it?

Thanks for reading. With Love, always. Jason ❤

P.S. Did you notice with the last 3 goals representing the harmony of the mind, body and spirit/soul?

Feature image – The London to Brighton Bike ride supporting the British Heart Foundation completed on the 16th of June 2019.

Five Years

Is it just me or does everyone hit a point in their lives where they think about where they are in life and how a lot of it, or certain aspects of it are not aligned with their goals and dreams they had in their minds.

Sometimes, even the thought of this reminds me of what sounds quite funny at first at the humble age of 26, but on a serious note, a midlife crisis. But what if this crisis is actually a representation of a modern crisis, one where it is a by-product of a generation that has been raised in the most globally connected, wealthy and “free” time in the history of mankind. We have something that our predesesors didn’t have until they were in their late thirties and that is more knowledge, more freedom and more choices. These choices whenever abundant can give rise to doubt; the what if’s that run through our minds when given options and we choose one over another.

The real big question is how does any of us know they’ve made the right choice? Some might tell you to follow your instincts, others base their decisions on the judgements of their close family and friends and furthermore others would use pure logic and reasoning to judge the right move. Risk over reward, right? Well, everyone has their own take on this and the truth is, no one really has the right answer.

All I know is that for me personally, I am at a crossroad, a point where I’ve still the freedom to change the direction in my life. Maybe that’s one we can all take away though, maybe at any given “present” moment, we can make that change. But for now, I am reaching what people call the 5-year mark, or the 5-year rule; it marks when you have been at a company or role for that amount of time and it’s a good time to change companies, go for that payrise or what I think is becoming more and more relevant in today’s age, change careers.

It was only years ago where we would say that job stability or dare I say life stability came from the amount of years you were employed for in a company. In fact, it’s quite likely we get that from our older colleagues of whom we work with; 10 years, 15 years, 25 years, 30 years! They’re incredibly proud of it and to me, that is one hell of an achievement because I can’t see further than 6 months into my future let alone 10 years!

Times have changed and they’ve changed so rapidly at that, I struggle to believe that staying in one company, in one role, being the “master of one” instead of the “jack of all trades” will be enough to survive in this modern world. This is not because it is not important to be a master, it is because it is increasingly becomming tougher to be a master of any trade. The knowledge that a master holds is becoming increasingly easier to access, you can see that with not just the immensity of the global knowledge held on the internet but the expert driven courses which can be found at your fingertips. Anyone can be an expert in a field so long as they put in the effort and significantly less time than 30 years. But even then, it is not those singular experts that truly move the world and make a difference, I believe it is those whom can bring expertise from a number of fields into one that can make the real change in the world.

So let’s say, we follow the 5-year rule, but the modern one. In 30 year’s you would of had 6 different careers, all spanning a wide range of interests, hobbies, dreams, goals and passions. Maybe one or two of them you really enjoyed and stayed on for longer, and maybe those in which you did not enjoy so much you stayed less.

Now I propose the most important question, one for the readers to think about, who has more expertise after 30 years? Who is more likely to have followed his or her dreams, achieved greater heights and will live to tell more stories?

It’s still a tough question, one that we all still have our own opinions on, but maybe this time after reading this, with just that tiny bit more clarity.

Thanks for reading my friends, I guess this one was more for me at this point of time in my life. It hasn’t come across because I don’t enjoy my work or I think there’s something better out there for me; it’s more the side of me that seeks to learn more about the world, the undying curiosity and adventure that I seek. Is one life too short to be spending 80% of your time on one thing? I would always, always, always say yes.

Feature image – Represents how slow we should be living life in retrospect to how fast it feels; this was during my wanderings on a little island national park at Yeosu-si, Jeollanam-do, South Korea taken on the 30th August 2017

The Little but BIG Things In Life – Appreciation List

  1. THANK YOU for giving me the strength to be alone and be okay with that. To find and fall in love with who I am, to be my own self in a world that can sometimes feel like it’s tearing you apart.
  2. THANK YOU mum for being there for me, always. For always having the most beautiful smile in the world. Mum, I want you to know that when you’re happy, the world lights up and there is nothing but happiness in this world.
  3. THANK YOU dad for being the biggest and most incredible role model that any son could have ever hoped for. Dad, I want you to know that you are my inspiration in this world, your strength and fortitude, bravery and persistence to make a better life for you and your family has taught me everything I know about what it means to raise a family; no doubt this will be passed on to many generations to come.
  4. THANK YOU Michael, my older brother. You are the smartest person I know, most of the time. You give advice that is often sound and responsible and has always kept me on the right path in life. You’re the first person I go to when I seek guidance, without you, my life would not have the structure, the building blocks it does today and I can only hope that I continue to listen and take in your knowledge.
  5. THANK YOU Ken, my youngest brother. You have taught me that everyone is on a different path to success, that there is not one but an infinite number of ways that one can reach success. I know us older brothers sometimes can seem to have expectations that are not always easy to achieve; you shouldn’t have to live up to them because you are on your own path in life and I realise that now. Just know that we have always wanted the best for you and are here to support any decision you make.
  6. THANK YOU Jasie, my dear sister in Law. Far more than anyone else in the world, you have taught me to welcome others with the biggest open arms. Our family is incredibly lucky to have and welcome you into our home. I thank you so much for your patience and acceptance of who we are. I know that we are not always perfect, myself especially but know that we will always be here for you and the little ones.
  7. THANK YOU little Jasmine and Alicia, oh my two little beautiful nieces! You two are an absolute bundle of joy! The hardest question I’ve had to answer since moving abroad was what will I miss the most about home and the answer is not what, but who and it’s you two. It saddens me greatly that I am not there to see you grow up, running around the family house chasing each others tails. I hope that you will remember your old uncle Jason, known for his bravery to chase his dreams, to jump into the unknown and explore the wild corners of the world. I promise to bring you wild gifts and stories from distant lands, even dragons if he ever comes across one!
  8. THANK YOU so very much, my best friend. You taught me the true meaning of what that meant and it only took two decades to meet you; but oh my am I glad we finally did! You’re a big part of my life and a big reason why I can stand tall and not be afraid. I’ve always got your back and you’ve got mine, a great day? Tell me about it while I cheer you on, a really bad day? I’ll be here to listen! And ofcourse by the end have you smiling away 🙂 stay strong, keep being you because you are awesome!
  9. THANK YOU teddy Beary for being there from the start. For being the light in the darkness, for fighting off the monsters under the bed and being the comfort I needed when I was young, scared and weak; so that now I have become none other than the protector.
  10. THANK YOU for the sun and warmth that comes each but not every day. It reminds me that life is not all sunshine and blue skies, but instead it’s how you overcome the grey to see the light of another day.
  11. THANK YOU for my good health! I know I don’t always appreciate it as much as I should, but I know my physical body is strong and in good health, that it can take me to places and move mountains at my call.
  12. THANK YOU to those of you who keep in touch even when I am so far away, even when it’s been so long since we last spoke. The little things such as “how are you” keep me going knowing people out there do care about me just as I do for them.
  13. THANK YOU to all those who post recipes online whether that’s on my favourite Subtle Asian Cooking page, blogs or websites. They give a big newbie like me hope to cook things that I never thought I could of, to enjoy the food i make and most importantly to know what’s going into everything i make and eat.
  14. THANK YOU to the world wide web! How crazy does it sound to know that was a time when the world wasn’t even near as connected as it is today. Not only are we more connected to each other socially but more importantly, connected by information. This is to ensure I never take for granted how easy it is for me to satisfy my thirst for knowledge, more open to me than 99.999% of humans ever been in the past.
  15. THANK YOU to the sound of music. You move me. You have always moved my body and heart, made me feel emotions that I could not describe but only feel. Music really is the universal language that connects us all, vibrating strings is what we are made of and vibrating strings is what we are all changed by. I am glad that we have ears to listen, hearts to feel and our bodies to move along with it.
  16. THANK YOU to those who choose to smile. I often get caught up in the movements of the day to notice that I haven’t stopped to enjoy the moment, the life each day that I have been given. But you, stranger, with your smile remind me. You remind me of the good that is in the world, to not get sucked up in the pattern, the mindless moving. You remind me to smile back and give a smile once again to another stranger.
  17. THANK YOU to my outbound friends. Those of you who are eagerly finding adventure beyond the horizons of what you see and crossing borders to places you’d never thought you’d find yourself. It is you I seek out most because when I see you doing this; I want to join you. Often I will and I do, the stories we share with one another are unforgettable and the bonds we make are unbreakable because one of the things I do know is that friends who travel together, stay together.
  18. THANK YOU for giving me the chance to truly be proud of the work I do, of the projects that come to life in front of my eyes. Not often enough do I pause to remember that I and with the help of many others, change the shape of the landscapes we design. That we design and build things on this Earth that will stay for lifetimes past; places where people come together and bring joy and love to one another! That is much to be proud of and I am thankful to remember this each and every day.
  19. THANK YOU for my forever curious and wandering mind. You keep my on my toes with new questions and new discoveries each and every day. You keep track of my sensors and question the things I see, the scents that I smell, the taste that I taste, the sounds that I hear and the feeling of what It is I touch. Maybe more importantly, you make me think about the way I think and wonder about how it is to feel about the way I feel.
  20. THANK YOU for allowing me to give meaning even to the most mundane of things. Today I found great meaning in even the letters of the Alphabet. The T for Tau for example, used as a symbol for life and ressurection in ancient times was also used by the Greeks to symbolise death. Soon after, in biblical times it connected to the cross of Jesus. I realised that even the most simplest of things we take for granted weave across the history of time and space. There is meaning all around us, it is only for us to open our eyes and see. So beautiful.
  21. THANK YOU for the high life energy. One of the most profound things I have learnt about myself over the years is what makes me want to move. In moving I mean to excitedly jump for joy, to enthusiastically wave my hands up in the air and to sing on top of my lungs. It made me realise that it’s not something you’re born into, but it’s something that can be found and the secret is simple, to do something you love. When I do something I love, the energy I put into it feels like my all plus an extra batterypack to top it off. So, I think you for helping me find my high life energy.
  22. THANK YOU for my smile. I never knew the power of a smile until others made me smile with theirs. It’s contagious! Often, people say that I am that person who is always smiling, I’d like to think it’s because of the storyteller in my mind. The vivid imagination that is weaved by the subjects that it finds in everything. But also, I smile because I know it can make you smile too, it can brighten up somebody’s day even for a little moment so I think you for giving me the big bright smile I have (and the wrinkles that come with it!). P.S. that’s why the sunflower is my favourite flower, it makes people smile just by looking at those beautiful golden petals.

As time goes on, this list will continue to grow, to forever be a reminder of how much good there is in this world and to that, I THANK YOU for being the biggest and most important part of it ❤ Love, Jason.

The Thought of You

The thought of meeting someone like you

keeps me going on each and every day.

It’s someone like you who keeps my heart in a constant leap,

reminds me that i have loved

that i can still love again.

It is the thought of you that brings me so much pain,

a pain that still makes me smile

just by knowing it happened,

that it was real.

That’s how i know that i am truly alive

because it is the thought of you that i am who i am today

and i can only thank you for everything that you were to me,

that you still are to me

and that will always be.

Goals of 2019 – Settle

What an incredible start to 2019.

The new years day was spent waking up one last time to a sunrise coming through into the farmhouse home. Into a place I’ve called home for the last 26 years and to be honest, I don’t intend on changing that title; wherever I go in this world. But where I go on this day is as far away as one can. Across the world is a place I will call home for the next few years and as of this moment, I dont know how to feel about that. Mum cooks up something wonderful as always, an extra nutritious meal to ready my flight and off to the airport I go.

The next thing I know, I say goodbye to the ones I love so dearly and I’m already on my flight. How did I get here so fast? It’s what everyone says after waiting for this moment for what feels like a lifetime. You know that feeling, of waiting for that holiday that’s in a years time, but it is now, at this very moment? Well I’ve been dreaming of this since before my teens, so how do I explain it? Something I should be good at, but my answer is I don’t know.

How do you explain emotions that the English language does not relate? I finally understand why some words translated from other languages take multiple sentences to explain and even still don’t convey its true meaning. Linguistics is a very complicated and very intresting topic. Well that’s what it felt like, something that words could not explain, an enormous amount of emotions of all kinds rushed into me as I sat on that plane in which felt like another lifetime. Do I tear up? Do I smile? Do I stare into space or look at the adventure ahead? I don’t know, so I just sit there, sit there and exist.

Let’s…let’s not dwell on that thought.


Like every year I inscribe my goals, dreams and passions for the upcoming year. This one was supposed to be short and sweet, but turned out to be a lot more than expected; so here goes:

  1. Learn to be a good house husband. Go ahead, have a giggle. But in all seriousness, With independence comes responsibility. I will learn to cook, to clean, to wash. I will learn to make my bed each morning and keep to a good schedule. I will learn not to put wool clothing in the dryer, to not leave food out in the open and to keep that toilet seat down; that’s a promise.
  2. Fitness. 2018 was a very proud year for me. I am so incredibly surprised that I made it through the entire year without doing any exercise, eating anything I wanted and still came out looking okay; with a small baby belly, but that’s OK. But not 2019 I don’t. I will jog and cycle to and from work on a basis greater than 4 times a week (the truth is, i’m planning on smashing this goal by a further 2 or more).
  3. Travel goals are one of my biggest and it all starts with a bit of music. Music festivals will guide me throughout the year, a major decider of where I will go and visit. Let’s sit that goal at 4 right now with twice as much cities inbetween! So Europe, here I come. There’s a lot more to discuss here, where and why, but this is for goals so I kept it short.
  4. Organise. There are a few things that have been on my checklist for a while that I need to organise. Why does it feel like there are always more things to organise in life? Will I be forever trying to organise? We will see, for now, I want that super spreadsheet (with my finances, taxes, travel schedules) to be up to date. I want my social media to be organised, Instagram will be a place for the major places i’ve visited, facts and figures and things to learn for everyone; this will be automated by the end of the year. Facebook will continue as it is, a great place to be with friends and for the memories and my blog here and it’s “series editions” will continue to be updated to connect on a deeper level with my best of friends. My LinkedIN will stay closely as it is, updated as my career progresses. Snapchat has never been big for me, nor has Twitter or others and that’s the way they will stay.
  5. I want to be a part of a community here in London, at least one by the end of the year. There are a few ideas which surround big things of interest which I will be pursuing this year, these include the following: Joining a tennis/ badminton club and playing regularly. Being a part of an outdoorsy group with lots of hiking, camping and other exciting outdoor activities. Joining a regular board games get together or a group of people who love to do such activities as movies, after work drinks and etc. Or maybe learning something new with people, I have goals to learn how to dance and to improve my cultural Chinese language. Or again, maybe this could be something like working closely with industry groups tied to my area of work. To be honest, the possibilities here are wide and endless, but I’m looking for atleast one strong group and a number of other smaller groups that I can be a part of, a community as to say.

So with that, I leave you with a thought. What are your goals for the year? How do you plan to be the best person that you can be during the year. Comment or message me personally, I would truly like to know. OR have you simply not thought about it?

Thanks for reading. With Love, always. Jason ❤