A Losing Battle

“I realised a long time ago that the harder I resist and fight against my destiny, the more I am fighting a losing battle. Yes, you do create your own destiny but to an extent only, and when you start to see the difference between the two, everything changes.

JayysNotes

Personal Context – There’s somewhere I’m meant to be. Someone I’m meant to be with. I think about this all the time. The more I think about it, the more I think I am ready.

The Challenge of Self-Discovery

“For my father, and now me, the essence of a good work ethic starts with meeting a challenge of self-discovery, of finding something you love to do, so that work — even, or especially, when it’s very difficult and arduous — becomes joyful. Maybe even sacred,””

Warren Buffet

Personal Context – I love this quote because it was only a few years ago that I discovered this on my own whilst I was at my lowest point in life. I remember back then, how lost I was not knowing where I fit in, in this great big world. I remember just walking through life as if it all had no meaning at all, that it was some sick joke played on us, puppets in a never ending show.

And then it was all suddenly so clear, so blaringly obvious even; that the only thing worth pursuing in this lifetime was forever growth and self-discovery. To find the love of my life, not in someone else but within myself above all else.

Since then, my path has been more true than it’s 23 years before it, it has been more clear than it ever has. The realisation that life is not some sick joke, that it is absolutely and wonderfully precious and that it works for you if only you let it.

Mondays

“Mondays are absolutely key to any individuals success. An energetic start to the day fueled by the reaping joys of the weekend and a really really good nights rest sets the tone not only for the rest of the day, but for the week that comes.

A Monday spent worthwhile gets you ahead of the game. Before most have even figured out what their week looks like, you’re already looking ahead to the next.”

JayysNotes

Personal Context – I sit here at the end of one of my favourite days, Mondays. Looking back throughout the day, I feel a sense of achievement. I’ve completed the equivalent of a weeks work in one sitting. A long sitting no doubt but I’ve done it and now that I have, the week feels open to me. Open to spending time on what really matters, on ideas that never should be overlooked at a glance, when you’re too busy to really pause and see. Having a good Monday to me means to have an even better week. It is because of this I have my Sunday ME days, to wind down, get an exceptional quality of sleep and relax before the storm in which is myself!

The Greatest

“Use your position as leverage for the positive change you want to see. Aim to be the greatest not for yourself, but for all those who need you to be; and for all those who never had the opportunity”

JayysNotes

Personal Context – This quote came about as the year 2020 closes, a year where a large bit of my free time was taken up by activities relating to the chairing of the young professionals committee at my company. Looking back, there were many a great achievements, mistakes and hurdles that I had to overcome but it has to be one of the most eye opening things I’d ever done. Being in a position of respective power allowed me to push agenda’s which really made a difference, but more importantly, it allowed for conversations with people and organisations in which I would never have made bringing me up through the company’s structure and back down.

For 2021, I was voted in to become YP chair of an even more prominent organisation, the Institute of Engineering & Technology. So it makes me think, how far can I take this? How far can I use my title, my position to drive the values and beliefs that I truly believe in that with positively change the lives of others?

Learning

“Learning

After some time, you learn the subtle difference between
holding a hand
and imprisoning a soul;
You learn that love does not equal sex,
and that company does not equal security,
and you start to learn….
That kisses are not contracts and gifts are not promises,
and you start to accept defeat with the head up high
and open eyes,
and you learn to build all roads on today,
because the terrain of tomorrow is too insecure for plans…
and the future has its own way of falling apart in half.

And you learn that if it’s too much, even the warmth of the sun can burn.

So you plant your own garden and embellish your own soul,
instead of waiting for someone to bring flowers to you.

And you learn that you can actually bear hardship,
that you are actually strong,
and you are actually worthy,
and you learn and learn…and so every day.

Over time you learn that being with someone
because they offer you a good future,
means that sooner or later you’ll want to return to your past.

Over time you comprehend that only who is capable
of loving you with your flaws, with no intention of changing you
can bring you all happiness.

Over time you learn that if you are with a person
only to accompany your own solitude,
irremediably you’ll end up wishing not to see them again.

Over time you learn that real friends are few
and whoever doesn’t fight for them, sooner or later,
will find himself surrounded only with false friendships.

Over time you learn that words spoken in moments of anger
continue hurting throughout a lifetime.

Over time you learn that everyone can apologize,
but forgiveness is an attribute solely of great souls.

Over time you comprehend that if you have hurt a friend harshly
it is very likely that your friendship will never be the same.

Over time you realize that despite being happy with your friends,
you cry for those you let go.

Over time you realize that every experience lived,
with each person, is unrepeatable.

Over time you realize that whoever humiliates
or scorns another human being, sooner or later
will suffer the same humiliations or scorn in tenfold.

Over time you learn to build your roads on today,
because the path of tomorrow doesn’t exist.

Over time you comprehend that rushing things or forcing them to happen
causes the finale to be different form expected.

Over time you realize that in fact the best was not the future,
but the moment you were living just that instant.

Over time you will see that even when you are happy with those around you,
you’ll yearn for those who walked away.

Over time you will learn to forgive or ask for forgiveness,
say you love, say you miss, say you need,
say you want to be friends, since before
a grave, it will no longer make sense.

But unfortunately, only over time…”

Jorge Luis Borges

You who are passing by

“You who are passing by, I beg you, do something. Learn a dance step, something to justify your existence, something that gives you the right to be dressed in your skin in your body hair. Learn to walk and to laugh, because it would be too senseless after all, for so many to have died while you to live, doing nothing for your life.”

Auschwitz survivor Charlotte Delbo

Parents

“I’ve always believed that your parents want the best for you, but at the same time, they don’t always know what that is. As much heartache as it may cause, it’s about standing up for your beliefs, who you are and what you want in life, instead of just being what they would like you to be. They will, in time see that you are your own person, that you have and always will honestly and wholeheartedly take in consideration the advice they give; but ultimately make your own path In life. When they see this, and it will take time, they will not only be proud of who you have become (a strong, independent individual), but you will also have grown to be someone you are proud of, incorporating some of your parents greatest strengths and teachings along with your very own and where your heart lies.”

Jason Li

Feature image – Graduation Day. The University of Technology, Sydney, Australia. Taken on the 9th of May 2017

A Free Spirit

“When he had been a child, at home, he had imagined the joy of being a free spirit, so he had been surprised when, on his first wanderings, he had so often felt sad, lonely, even heartbroken. Even after he had grown accustomed to this rootless lifestyle, though he did feel every bit the legendary lone hero, at other times it was good to feel the warmth and security of company.”

Bolldhe

Waterloo

“My my
At Waterloo Napoleon did surrender
Oh yeah
And I have met my destiny in quite a similar way
The history book on the shelf
Is always repeating itself
Waterloo I was defeated, you won the war
Waterloo promise to love you for ever more
Waterloo couldn’t escape if I wanted to
Waterloo knowing my fate is to be with you
Waterloo finally facing my Waterloo”

ABBA